Thursday, April 16, 2015

Paul Writes To the Wives - Colossians 3:18


Paul the apostle wrote to the church members in Colosse concerning their relationship with God the Father through Jesus Christ and with one another as they related to Him. They were to “put on charity” and allow “the peace of God” and “the word of Christ” to dwell within them, and their hearts were to be filled with thankfulness and gratitude for Jesus. In chapter three and verse eighteen, Paul began to be more specific concerning their relationships with one another as he began to write to them about marriage. His first instruction is to the “wives” where we read:



Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.



The verse begins, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands,” Let us notice first of all to whom this verse was written – to the “Wives”. Paul has narrowed his attention toward the women in the church who were married. It is as though he is speaking directly to them at this point. His directive was “submit yourselves” which means “to arrange under, to subordinate, be subject to or yield” “to your own” or “pertaining to one's self, one's own or belonging to one's self” “husbands”. The idea was to “come under the authority of” their own husbands and not someone else's. We must remember there were the false teaching and heretical Judaizers and Gnostics who were among them, and they loved to exercise authority over anyone who would allow it.



The verse continues, “as it is fit in the Lord.” Paul gives the reason wives were to submit to their own husbands, “as it is fit” or “come up to, arrived at, reached, due or duty to do “in the Lord” which means “within the bounds of the relationship with the Lord Jesus”. Paul saw the relationship of a wife to her husband as a reflection of the relationship the wife had with the Lord. It was “fitting” that she demonstrate her submission to the Lord through the relationship with her husband.



This is a very controversial verse in our day. The idea of “submission” is not one that anyone relishes, and the wives who have been abused in their present or past marriages especially struggle with this. We must remember that the scriptures are “Divinely” inspired, and Paul wrote as he was directed by the Holy Spirit, so in reality it was God who gave this directive to the “wives”. This is why it is “fitting” in the Lord, as “submission” to a husband was a reflection of “submission” to the Lord. God knows men, and He knows how men like to be in control even when they are not in control. When a woman submits to her husband, she plays into the very core of who her husband is, and harmony between them is gained. Of course, this never condones abuse of any sort from a husband, and there is much more to say to him, but we shall take that up in the next verse. For now, let us meditate upon the fact that God knows the most about relationships and marriage, and He gave this instruction through Paul. May the Lord bring us all to the understanding of His words.



Next time Paul continues to write to the Colossians about marriage and addresses the husbands, so read ahead, and we shall join together then.



Until tomorrow...there is more...



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